“The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:23-25)
I have heard it said there is one particular spouse for each person, and supposedly each of us is to find that certain and be joined/married only to that person. Well, of course, this raises a whole host of problems from people who’s gender/sexual orientation is not accepted to people who marry/partner several times. I used to believe that there was one specific person for each of us, and then worried that I would not find “the one.” Then I decided that it is more important to be the right person (that is, to be the best person you can be) rather than find the right person. My thinking now is that finding someone to partner with you throughout your life where you are supportive of them and they of you. Each of us needs and desires different things out of life, and successful marriages are not based so much on compatibility as on the desire to form a bond that is intended to last your entire life span. And that is not any easy bond to find, make, or last for 50 years or more.
The Confession uses this verse to affirm that “Scripture places sexual intimacy within God’s good created order.” It goes on to place sexual intimacy within the bonds of marriage. Again, these assumptions, while fine and good for some circumstances, can lead to problems with intolerance, prejudice and judgmental attitudes. If people would only stop a moment and listen to the intent & spirit of these verses instead of getting caught up in the legalistic definitions, I think society would be more at peace.
Listen; two people find each other, and decide that they want to journey through life together, supporting each other and being there for one another. They find a place where they can be together and nurture each other, relying only on each other. They delight both the similarities and differences of one another. Through conversation and physical & emotional intimacy they bring pleasure and joy to one another, and receive pleasure and joy. They come to know each other so well, that nothing has to be hidden from each other, and there is no embarrassment in revealing their deepest secrets to one another. They promise each other this relationship will last their whole lives, and they commit their entire selves to maintaining the beauty and strength of the relationship.
Is this not what we desire for ourselves? Is this not what God desires for creation? Why then do we judge others when they have found this? And why would one prevent people from entering into this type of relationship?
It can be lonely being on your own. Some people can live their lives with having relationships that are less intense than I have described – some by choice and others by circumstances. I hope gentle reader you have found someone to journey through life with, either as daily partners or ongoing friendships. I pray that God blesses and watches over your relationships and the people you relate to. Selah!